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What will you regret most on your deathbed? Not spending more time at work or not making more money? Funnily enough you won't regret either of these things according to this article in the Guardian ba
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Top five regrets of the dying
posted at 9/2/2012 12:36 PM GMT
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What will you regret most on your deathbed? Not spending more time at work or not making more money? Funnily enough you won't regret either of these things according to this article in the Guardian based on the findings of a nurse who asked people to name their regrets. Top regrets were Not living a life that was true to yourself, Working too hard Not staying in touch with friends Wish I'd let myslef be happier Wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/01/top-five-regrets-of-the-dying?INTCMP=ILCNETTXT3487 I saw it after a phone call with my oldest friend who said she never saw her friends any more because she was working too hard. So I've sent this to her too. What will be your biggest regret? |
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Re: Top five regrets of the dying
posted at 9/2/2012 5:53 PM GMT
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What a valid point; specially for us that still have the luxury of doing something about it. Such reflections enable us evaluate important principles and work towards a balance of the professional and personal aspects of our lives. |
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Re: Top five regrets of the dying
posted at 9/2/2012 8:38 PM GMT
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Live your life so you prepare for a good death. I am surprised how well most patients take their imminent demise. I admire their courage. It is good to die with no regrets. Regret is the fruit of guilt of perhaps beating one's self up; perhaps of the obsessional mind who has learnt little about life itself. We wanted it all to be tidy and perfect. Je ne regrette rien. I don't mind dying, I just don't want to be there when it happens. Spike Milligan (1918-2002). I told a patient recently when asked that he probably would live only another six months. He may well have said back to me (he didn't) that I have only one day to live for we can only live one day at a time. Our own false concept of our life expectancy is one factor which ruins our enjoyment of its wonder. We live as if we are to survive according to actuarial tables.
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Re: Top five regrets of the dying
posted at 9/2/2012 10:19 PM GMT
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If we were all thinking all times about our demise, we would go crazy. Yes, we discuss this, but we all repress and deny our inevitable end of road. This is something that seems built in, otherwise we would all scream and panic 24/7... You can only try to do your best.Sometimes it is OK, sometimes it seems we could've done better and more. Shed no tears on what you could do when you face death, do what you think you should while you can. There are two certain points in our existence: we are all born and we will all die. The way between those to points should not be filled by hurdles imposed by other humans. By that I mean we should be able to do our best and allow all others to do their best. Facing our death we can ask two questions: have we done all that depends onf us to make the best in this journey, and did we get in the way of another person preventing him/her from doing their best?
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Re: Top five regrets of the dying
posted at 10/2/2012 12:06 AM GMT
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Davebergie. This topic has hit a raw nerve. I suggest you lie down on the couch and tell me more. There is a joke: A man is referred to a psychoanalyst. The analyst asks, "And what is your occupation". "I am a motor mechanic", the man answers. "Well just come over here, lie down under the couch and tell me more".
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