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The Royal College of Midwives has come out with guidance for men to get them though the trauma of childbirth. It has produced a 16 page booklet called Reaching Out: Involving Fathers in Maternity Care
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Are men traumatised by childbirth?

posted at 16/11/2011 10:28 AM GMT on bmj.com
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The Royal College of Midwives has come out with guidance for men to get them though the trauma of childbirth.
It has produced a 16 page booklet called Reaching Out: Involving Fathers in Maternity Care, along with the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists and the Fatherhood Institute.

Men, says the college, shouldn't stop being involved after conception. The guide helps midwives in understanding how to involve men. I haven't read it but I hope it suggests to men that they don't read the paper as you are gripping the back of the chair in the middle of a contraction and that they make sure the midwife gives you pain relief.

I didn't notice my partner was traumatised but I'll ask him when I get home tonight. 

<http://www.rcm.org.uk/college/policy-practice/government-policy/fathers-guide/&gt; (Reaching Out: Involving Fathers in Maternity Care)

Re: Are men traumatised by childbirth?

posted at 16/11/2011 10:50 AM GMT on bmj.com
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Nope.

Sat through six of mine. 

I grew up on a farm where I was told tales of  tough women here in the old days in our grain belt who while sewing up wheat bags in the field would go into labour, go to the farm house to have the baby and come back out to finish the sewing the bags with the men as it was at harvest time and there was no Tooth Fairy. 

Re: Are men traumatised by childbirth?

posted at 16/11/2011 12:00 PM GMT on bmj.com
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Is there really no tooth fairy? What about the easter Bunny?

When I went into labour second time round my midwife said to me she had just come back from a developing country (can't remember where she was) and that women squatted along the side of the road on the way to work and gave birth. So no pressure then.

Re: Are men traumatised by childbirth?

posted at 16/11/2011 1:19 PM GMT on bmj.com
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Traumatised, No. Scared *&^$5()£& Yes.

Our little boy was born 1 year and 1 day ago arriving 9 weeks early. Both my wife and I were totally unprepared for that and it was the most worrying time of my life.

I have a friend that passed out during the birth of his son and another that was so scared that he could not even be in the same room during the birth.

Obviously men in the UK are not as hardened as out antipodean friends, but then again we have less to fear on a daily basis whether it be dangerous animals on the land or in the sea and of course feeling safe under our ozone layer.

Re: Are men traumatised by childbirth?

posted at 16/11/2011 11:12 PM GMT on bmj.com
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We eat road kill and have road kill restaurants. I draw the line at carpet snake. 

Re: Are men traumatised by childbirth?

posted at 17/11/2011 10:39 AM GMT on bmj.com
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I was more traumatised by the 42 hours of labour for the first one, and the EPIC hangover the morning after the second one.....

Re: Are men traumatised by childbirth?

posted at 17/11/2011 12:01 PM GMT on bmj.com
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This discussion has now turned into "Are men traumatised by Australian restaurants"

Surely a snake on the carpet is cleaner than a snake on the road dependant on how often the missus vacums of course!

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We eat road kill and have road kill restaurants. I draw the line at carpet snake. 
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Re: Are men traumatised by childbirth?

posted at 17/11/2011 12:39 PM GMT on bmj.com
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The BMJ's very own Edward Davies has written a good blog about this on the Guardian.
I had no idea he was such an alturistic guy.
http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2011/nov/17/dads-to-be-pamphlet-birth-child

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posted at 17/11/2011 12:43 PM GMT on bmj.com
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All this stuff about men and labour is becoming a real pain. 

Bring me another carpet snake burger, Miss. I am getting sick of placenta with polenta. 

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